(And How to Fix It)

The Real Root of Trust Issues

Have you ever felt like trusting others is nearly impossible? Perhaps you’ve been betrayed, let down, or hurt in the past, and now, skepticism feels like a protective shield. However, the truth might surprise you: the issue isn’t really about other people. It’s about the trust you’ve lost in yourself.

The Early Lessons We Learn

Think back to childhood. Imagine a sensitive, intuitive child absorbing the world not just through words but through unspoken emotions. For many, early experiences involve witnessing parents argue or feeling caught between conflicting messages from the adults around them.

When a child loved both parents, but hears one parent criticize the other and constantly being told they are wrong, a subtle but powerful message forms:

• “Can I trust my feelings? What if I’m actually wrong?”

Most children, seeking stability, make an unconscious choice:

• Either the world is flawed, or I am.
  Most choose the second option. It feels safer to believe that “something is wrong with me” rather than face the unpredictability of the outside world.

Fast Forward to Adulthood

These patterns follow us into adulthood. Imagine meeting someone who feels “off.” Your gut instinct says, “Something isn’t right,” but you dismiss it, thinking, “Maybe I’m overreacting.” Later, when that person betrays you, it reinforces a belief: “People can’t be trusted.”

In reality, the broken trust isn’t about others—it’s about the inner voice you’ve silenced.

Healing Practices to Rebuild Self-Trust

1. Inner Child Meditation:
   • Find a quiet space. Close your eyes and picture your younger self. What does this child need to hear? Maybe it’s, “You are safe,” or “Your feelings are valid.” Speak these words in your mind or out loud. This practice helps rebuild the connection with your inner guidance system.
2. Journaling Prompts:
   • When did I first feel like my emotions weren’t trustworthy?
   • What would I say to my younger self now?
   • Reflect on a time you ignored your intuition—what did you learn?
3. Trust Exercises:
   • Start small. Follow your intuition on minor decisions (like choosing a meal or a book). Each time you honor your inner feeling, it strengthens that inner trust.
4. Affirmations for Self-Trust:
   • “My feelings are valid.”
   • “I trust my intuition.”
   • “I honor my inner wisdom.”
5. Mindfulness Practice:
   • Spend a few minutes daily in silence, focusing on your breath. When thoughts arise, observe them without judgment. This practice helps you reconnect with the present moment and your inner self.

Conclusion: Trust Begins Within

Remember, the trust you seek in others begins with trusting yourself. When you honor your emotions, respect your thoughts, and embrace your authentic self, your intuition becomes louder and clearer. It guides you toward people and situations that nourish you—and away from those that don’t.

You are not broken. You are worthy of trust. Start with you.

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