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The Courage to Break Free

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Why You Can’t Trust Anyone

(And How to Fix It) The Real Root of Trust Issues Have you ever felt like trusting others is nearly impossible? Perhaps you’ve been betrayed, let down, or hurt in the past, and now, skepticism feels like a protective shield. However, the truth might surprise you: the issue isn’t really about other people. It’s about…

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ABANDONING IGNORANCE

– FULL KNOWLEDGE AND UNDERSTANDING OF ALL What is “All”? “All” encompasses our sense organs; everything we know comes through them. As the Buddha explained: “And what is the all? The eye and forms, the ear and sounds, the nose and odours, the tongue and tastes, the body and tactile objects, the mind and mental…

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5 things that I learned after I quit being a Buddhist Nun

The life full of mindfulness and meditation, while being a Buddhist monk, once you are able to pass the initial attachment to like and dislikes is worry free and pleasant over all. But how can you bring this peace to the “real world”? Here are the list of my observations, that I made after I disrobed:

1 Stress is it really our fault that life is stressful? Do we really need to run away from it?

2 Opinions of others can easily become our inner dialogue. It is very important to not to internalize other people’s projections, without making sure that they are not harmful

3 Community is very important! If I only able to maintain peace when I am alone, but my peace is easily taken away from me once I am around other people… was it peace after all?

4 Value the feelings. We are sensitive beings, which means we will have feelings and emotions. The more we try to deny our nature, the more destructive it can become.

5 Trauma. If other people around you are mad and angry, it tells more about them, then about you. If we are happy inside there is no need to hurt others.

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    Raffaello Palandri

    I was a Buddhist monk, as well, and then I asked to come back to live as a lay person to continue my service. Of course, one can find situations we can learn from, as always. My decision has been driven by the desire to better serve and help people not in a “structured” way.

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      Wow! Hi, Raffaello! Thank you for your story. I have very similar reasons. I enjoyed being a nun… and I asked myself what’s next? I can sit and enjoy my bliss as much as I want. And yes, I can help 1-2 people who comes to visit monastery once in a while. But peace is a universal thing, not a Buddhist. How can I reach out to those, who do not relate to Buddhism? That was one of the reasons I decided to step out, and help people just like you said not in a “structured” way! Many blessing to you! Keep up with good work, sir!

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